The After Tells You Everything
The acts are the easy part to counterfeit. What cannot be faked, because it serves no appetite, is the turning towards someone afterwards to see how they are. A man is measured by his after.
Caring Is Not the Charge
A Dominus is not a man who feels strongly and commands. He is a man whose caring has become the ordering of his own conduct around her good, continuously, and especially when her good and his appetite are in conflict.
Who Are the Acts For
Two people can do the identical thing, with the same words and the same body, and in one case it is among the most careful things a person can offer another, and in the other it is a slow injury dressed as devotion. The difference is never in the act. It is in who the act is for.